Reflecting

What you see in the mirror is a reflection of who you are today.

Although people, experiences and situations of your past are part of your life, they do not have to identify who you are today. But, don’t deny or lie about their existence. They happened.

I’ve heard someone say, ‘they don’t care what anyone thinks about them.’ But, their opinions matter. The way that you engage the world around you—matters. Your behavior, good or bad affects people, and they have every right to feel what they feel when they encounter you. And you are responsible for your own behavior. You may have to make amends to someone you have offended, before you can make any changes. Although this can be very uncomfortable, you must be willing to listen, and to accept what is said, without denying it. Then, moving forward, if you want positive feedback and positive consequences, then be a more positive person. Consider the impact that your actions have on others. Someone is watching and learning from you, that you may never see again. Leave a favorable impression on others.

Once you have accepted the existence of your past, and you’ve  made amends, then you can leave it all in the past. There are flawed, fractured, and broken pieces of every adult, and healing/recovery/ repentance can only occur when you’re able to accept the truth of your past.

Own it! Fix it! Move On!

Then, praise God for how far you’ve come. Just remember we are a constant work in progress. God is not finished shaping and shifting you. He wants to bring you closer to Him. He wants you to be more like Him. Therefore, as we learn better, we’re expected to do better.

So, as you continue to grow through your life, be kind to yourself, because guilt and shame are not productive. Those are the devils weapons to keep you in bondage. Own your negative behaviors, change your behaviors and Move On!

It helps to have someone that makes you want to be less selfish. Someone you can make feel they’re valuable to you. The way you think, feel and behave towards that person, or pet can help you focus on more positive behaviors. Then, love the person you are today, and embrace the person you are becoming.

1 Corinthians 13:11: "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me".